There is a variety of tactile event settings. In some, showing sexual interest and arousal is welcome. In a cuddle party setting, we don't go into sexualized interaction, and this is fixed in a separate rule.
The rule goes like this:
A cuddle party is a space of non-sexual interaction. Don’t make sex, kiss, touch each other's private body parts and project excessive arousal. Sex is good, but a cuddle party has different goals and mood: it’s about tenderness, subtle sensitivity, warm hugs and strokes, caring touches, childishly playful interactions and grouping, like a rookery of cats.
Why is that?
Safety. For some, sexual interest from unfamiliar people causes anxiety or a sense of danger. Also there are asexual people and those who have low interest in sex. They may want to cuddle very much, but don’t actually do that, so as not to face their own and others' arousal. For the sake of feeling safe, they specifically choose cuddle space, because it does not involve sexual interaction.
Slow down. Mutual sexual attraction is fast to bring two people super-fast. A cuddle party is designed so that people have time to understand what is happening to them. Moving away from sexuality helps you remain in slow interactions, not getting close to others too quickly, and have time to understand yourself.
Support. In a hug or a touch, some want to feel the support that they lack from their parents. They want to feel themselves in the arms of someone big and strong. Some miss sisterly or brotherly hugs. Some come for a friendly hug. The cuddle setting helps you not to get detached from this through arousal, to preserve this fragile oxytocin-ish magic :)
A spectrum. For some, the whole beautiful way between “we’re hugging” and “slight post-coital melancholy” just happens in a glimpse, without much notice from their conscious. But actually this is not a way, not a road with any direction. One can discover there’s a huge range of interactions, of emotional contact depth. There’s also no need to take a “course for sex” in it. Knowing your spectrum and understanding where you can feel secure, resourceful and happy, is a great gift.
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