We adhere to very important rules ensure that you all the rest participants feel good and safe.
- Culture of consent. If you want to do something with other people, ask about it out loud and wait for verbal consent or refusal. An explicit ”no”, a silent moment, some kind of vague answer actually means no. “Yes, of course, I agree, come on” and all energetic unambiguous reactions are a “yes”.
- A cuddle party is a space of non-sexual interaction. Don’t make sex, kiss, touch each other's private body parts and project excessive arousal. Sex is good, but a cuddle party has different goals and mood: it’s about tenderness, subtle sensitivity, warm hugs and strokes, caring touches, childishly playful interactions and grouping, like a rookery of cats.
Here you can learn more about this rule and its reasons.
- Take care of yourself, others and the space:
- Respect your feelings: if you feel lonely or it gets difficult, you can always approach the facilitator. Do what you want and don't do what you don't want.
- Be considerate of other people: we support each other in difficult moments. We use the “I” language (that is, we speak from ourselves: “I feel happy / sad / confused”, “I want to do this”, “that makes me anxious”) .
- Take care of the room you are in.
- Sober participation. Participants of the event must not be under the influence of alcohol, drugs, psychotropic and mentally altering substances. The exception is drugs prescribed by doctors.
- It is a good idea to stick to tactile interactions and not go into formal conversations. If you really want to talk, please, do it quietly.
- You don’t need to stick to only pairwise interactions or to interactions with one gender. At a cuddle party, you can interact with any number of persons simultaneously and with persons of any genders, as long as others you interact with agree with that.
- All emotions and experiences are welcome: laughter, tears, irritation, annoyance, anything that you feel. You can do anything, if this does not lead to destructive actions.
- We have a pre-selection of participants based on audio interviews. If you break the rules or behave in a way that causes concern, you may be asked to leave a party.
(rules taken from the cuddle party website by Maria Zobnina and the team, with her permission)
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